how to enjoy your own company
v-day edition ❤️
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i really like valentines day.
*gasp*
i bet you thought that i was gonna go all kill bill, ‘f love’ on this lovey-dovey month .…
well, no. not this time. valentine’s day will not be scaring me into hiding away in my house. i’ve decided to embrace v-day this year and celebrate loving myself, my family, and the beautiful people around me. including you, my lovely reader *wink wink*.
something about the cold weather and the mixture of romantic professions of love from complete strangers on the internet seems to have all of us in a chokehold. which makes our growing social obsession with being “cuffed” and ella mai boo’d up before v-day, even stronger.
which I understand, even the most cynical, unromantic person on the planet cannot deny the power of valentine’s day!
it’s almost like a heart-shaped christmas — everyone’s secretly waiting for some sort of v-day miracle to happen to them — you have the hopeless romantics who are waiting for their medium-ugly crush to ask them out, those who are just excited to get tipsy and eat cake with their friends for galentines day (or dudentines day), those who proclaim to “hate” valentines day but will end up cozied up in their beds alone watching at least three romantic comedy’s tonight, and those who are actually really excited to celebrate the holiday in a sweet way with their boo.
whichever category you happen to be in this year, try to remember that valentines day is the day of love and whatever that means for you. please don’t be swayed by the commercialized aspect of valentines day. make v-day what you want to make it and enjoy your day. if you happen to be single and feeling a bit lonely around this time, i want to reassure you that it’s totally normal, and i promise you are not alone.
here are 4 things you can start doing to truly enjoy your own company — even during the month of love ❤️:
1. doing inner work
decentering men from my life, manifesting, divine feminine energy
inner work is about shaping your own spirit, beliefs, and mindset to create a better version of yourself. it’s about adjusting and correcting your own mentality in order for you to better facilitate your goals and walk into your divine energy!
during my late teenage years, i really valued male validation. even when i wouldn’t even find them remotely attractive, i still felt the need to have their attention (the patriarchy smh). i quickly realized how unhealthy and devaluing it was for my self-esteem to care so much about what a muppet-looking mfer thought of me. so i started choosing to value myself over everything, in order to fully decenter men from my life. i started cultivating a relationship with myself, interacting with content that fed my soul and finding new hobbies to try. i’m so glad that i chose to practice that because it made me into the confident, self-assured, baddie that i am today!
2. building your own interests
learning french, becoming a pilates hottie
maturing is realizing that establishing hobbies for yourself is essential. hobbies can help to enrich and bring extra joy to your life ♡. building on your own interests through hobbies can help you to better appreciate your own personal fulfillment and become more comfortable in new and challenging environments.
cool hobbies to try ✭:
✭ pottery
✭ pilates
✭ crocheting
✭ learning a new language
✭ reading
✭ baking
✭ learning to play an instrument
✭ kickboxing
✭ painting
✭ gardening
✭ yoga
✭ tennis
3. solo dating
dating yourself, solo date ideas
in a world that seems to operate like a plus-one party invitation, most of us hardly make time to date ourselves! solo dating was designed to help us get to know ourselves better; it forces us to spend time alone and enjoy our own presence. last week, i was craving sushi so i decided to take myself out on a solo lunch date. i initially thought that it would be kind of awkward to be eating in a restaurant alone but i actually found comfort in my solitude. it was gratifying to know that i was just fine with me, myself, and i. solo dating doesn’t have to start out at a restaurant, it could be…
going to a workout class, taking a walk in the park, visiting a new coffee shop, watching the sunset, and playing some music.
4. treating yourself to nice things
getting your hot girl sparkle back
we all have a tendency to get stuck in our mundane routines and forget that we need to take time to get our hot girl sparkle back ✨. when i say sparkle, i mean that electrifying glow that you get when you are truly in your element and living your best life. everyone’s sparkle can look different and it’s important to figure out where yours comes from and not compare your light with someone else’s. acknowledge your slumps but celebrate your good days. really take time out to invest in your needs and wants, even in the smallest ways.
i hope you all have an amazing day of love ❤️❤️❤️ and HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH!!! ✊🏾😤
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the photo curation for your newsletter is always ✨chef’s kiss✨ this is such a great v day message! going on solo dates is so therapeutic and spontaneous. Whenever you’re with a friend or a group it’s somewhat predictable how the day will go, but when you’re by yourself you never know how the world will interact with you or what you may unlock within yourself! ☺️ & thank you for reminding me, I gotta get back to my routine of leaning italian! great post 🫶🏽